"So may all that sits unsettled and undecided within you,
may all that weighs heavy upon you,
may all that grasps and all that grabs and all that demands,
may all the loud voices and the persistence of self-doubt,
may the fear and the frozen and the fractured and too-broken,
may it all, may it all, may it all
wash from your skin
and out into the night,
to hold you
It is a new day, new year, the old has gone,
kiss her goodbye."
Attempting New Year's resolutions year after year without results is frustrating enough to turn many people off of goal setting completely. But if you want to build new habits, one of the first steps is assessing where you are now.
An annual review is a great way to celebrate the wonderful things that happened, figure out what worked, and let go of what did not. Some years are not fantastic. Painful years often need healing and closure. So be gentle with yourself.
I've tried a lot of methods over the past few years to create successful change in my life. None of them have fit me perfectly, but each year is a closer guess. We have to take the time to figure out what works for us as individuals.
Chris Guillebeau leaves town for about 10 days every year to do an annual review and focuses on two questions: 1) What went well? and 2) What didn't go well? You can also ask two follow up questions: What did I learn? What do I want more of?
End of the year rituals can be as simple or detailed as you want them to be. But we could all benefit from a little self-reflection and a new start.